This morning I was lying in bed, enjoying warm blankets and a cat at my feet, and the phone rang - I had forgotten I agreed to babysit for the neighbor for an hour this morning. Client lunch at noon, but I think I'll be able to make it.
Neighbor home a little late, so I call the client, get his voicemail, ask if we can make it 12:15 or 12:30.
I am taking the world's fastest shower when he return-voicemails me back - he'd been hoping I could be early, guess we'll have to make it another time. I call him immediately to suggest that I can be there in 10 minutes and perhaps we could just have coffee? I again get the voicemail. Turn your damn phone on, buddy.
He doesn't call back. Which is just as well, as I discover upon hanging up that Husband has taken the blow-dryer out of town with him, and I suspect my drowned-rat hair will not lead to booking an appointment.
On a side note - the neighbor's children are adorable. Husband and I have proceeded from debating whether to debating when. I am frankly terrfied.
1) Not really a kid person, though I hear it's different when they are yours.
2) Perhaps this is shallow, but I like having a tight pussy and I'm worried it'll get all stretched out.
3) I'm worried, not that I won't be able to continue my sex life, but that I won't want to.
How's that for morning reflection?
Motherhood changes you. Many women report a drop in interest in sex. Your lifestyle isn't very adaptable to children, I'm afraid, whether the multiple lovers or the biz.
ReplyDeleteI am coming out on the other side of raising three. I wouldn't trade them for a pony, as the saying goes, but I AM glad to be getting my life back. You definitely as "grounded" for awhile.
C. was very kid-phobic when we got married, then gradually morphed into a terrific mother. Now I'm trying to turn her back into a whore (well, not literally, but you get my meaning). Maybe you should talk to her?
I'd like very much to talk to C :)
ReplyDeleteOne thing I think I have going for me is that I've been very frank with Husband about the fact that I will not be stopping work for more than a short while, and that I am expecting him to be the stay-at-home spouse who provides better than 50% of the child care. Fortunately, he's on board with this, even welcomes it.
What tom said. Again.
ReplyDeleteYour answer to him's sort of a puzzle to me. If the work you're doing he knows about is not so well paying theater instruction, and he's going to be the stay-at-home spouse who provides more than half the child care, where's the money he knows about coming from? Or is there a fair bit of inherited or something?
Of course ignore this query if you like. It's more my wondering if you're being realistic.
You will be a rare woman if kids don't tug at your time, attention and priorities mightily, agreement with your husband or no.
Well, having read through March 4, I now understand the answer to my own question.
ReplyDeleteYou really are a dynamo, aren't you?
Still wonder how the time thing can work out with so many balls in the air, unless hubby works far fewer hours, or could do so. 40 hr/wk nanny affordable? But of course you can figure all this out. I hadn't gotten the management / organizing dynamo side of you by this point at all, but certainly do by March 4.