tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post5741737861848653994..comments2023-10-30T05:55:23.226-06:00Comments on How About Now?: Day One: AftercareMandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04608028066791266054noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post-49657128617874210362008-04-22T21:45:00.000-06:002008-04-22T21:45:00.000-06:00Randysrandy - I'm really honored that you would sa...Randysrandy - I'm really honored that you would say that, thank you. I have to admit I am pleased with how this one came out - it's been kicking in my head for awhile.<BR/><BR/>Penny - thanks. Yeah, I think you're right that it's more destructive than helpful. I'm really, really hoping that at the end of 30 days I will feel less completely fucked up.<BR/><BR/>Mikecindynjoe - I like your metaphor :) Thank you.<BR/><BR/>Numi - shit, now I have to think about that really seriously. The tiny little rational corner of my soul knows you're right...Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04608028066791266054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post-83248414824997357352008-04-20T09:57:00.000-06:002008-04-20T09:57:00.000-06:00I was reading this first thing in the morning. Pre...I was reading this first thing in the morning. Pre-coffee, groggy from a night spent being woken up by the cat. <BR/>About halfway through I caught myself muttering 'no no' and 'run away!'. And now I've got the Portal game quotes/memes stuck in my head. The cake is a lie! <BR/>Half-jesting so I'll stop being teared up, but. I know it's too early for you to get away, but I really hope you do. Walking away from the remnants of what was an earth shattering relationship like that.. It's not just pain. It's having to make a whole new you. That's the scary part to me, even with already having done so in the past. <BR/>He's not doing it for you, though, you know. No matter what he says or even thinks he thinks, the reason he's holding on to you like this is because it sooths *him*. <BR/>Please do hold on and find a way out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post-55950903596560435072008-04-19T16:58:00.000-06:002008-04-19T16:58:00.000-06:00Very moving. Difficult, I'm sure but I also hope ...Very moving. Difficult, I'm sure but I also hope that your writing is somewhat of a catharsis. Like Penny, I too, selfishly want you to continue, but you'll have to judge if this is constructive or not.<BR/><BR/>I can only offer you this: Consider the various stages a butterfly must go through before it finally emerges "finished". <BR/><BR/>Perhaps these types of stages are necessary stops along the way to our own final destinations?<BR/><BR/>Philosophical? Yes<BR/>Comforting? I hope at least a little bit.<BR/><BR/>MikeMikeCindynJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00053739458344917048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post-34278389802798050692008-04-18T16:30:00.000-06:002008-04-18T16:30:00.000-06:00Mandy,First of all, I'm selfishly glad you're writ...Mandy,<BR/><BR/>First of all, I'm selfishly glad you're writing. I missed you.<BR/><BR/>This post made me cry. It's a horrible feeling, almost worse than the first breaking up, to spend time w/the person who's breaking your heart. <BR/><BR/>My experience is that these attempts to feel better by reaffirming connection are only destructive. There's really no way out but through. <BR/><BR/>Your 30 days sounds like a good resolve. He, or we, may not be worth your words, but you, surely, are.Rosie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14080223708101642487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783604029558431761.post-20330976163635844232008-04-18T07:01:00.000-06:002008-04-18T07:01:00.000-06:00Mandy - I have nothing to add except to point out ...Mandy - <BR/><BR/>I have nothing to add except to point out that many of us are not worth it either. I know for me I sometimes read your words and feel unworthy to even be reading them. But inspite of this, I hope you will write anyway. Because there is no question that you are worth it Gentle Writer. (And if you doubt that, re-read this post again and again and again until the doubt is assuaged....)<BR/> <BR/>Thank you. <BR/>RandysrandyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com